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Expat Life: Long-Distance Grandparenting; Staying Close When Abroad



By Doreen Cumberford


Expatriate living offers wonderful opportunities for personal growth, though it can challenge family bonds – especially with grandchildren. Fortunately, modern technology and thoughtful approaches can help us remain an active, loving presence in our grandchildren's lives, regardless of distance. There are even advantages to this arrangement, such as having grandkids visit us in San Miguel for extended stays and unique cultural experiences. I recently interviewed Helen Ellis, author of "Being a Distant Grandparent, A Book for All Generations," where we explored the complex dynamics of long-distance family relationships between grandchildren and grandparents, and how to maintain meaningful connections across time zones and borders. Today's digital tools have never been better. Video calls through WhatsApp, FaceTime, or Zoom have become a lifeline for international families. My granddaughter, now studying at the University of Colorado Boulder, and I stay connected through LinkedIn! These platforms allow us to share both important moments and everyday experiences.


Embracing technology can be the first step to building meaningful relationships abroad. Scheduling regular "virtual tea-time" or "digital dinner dates" with grandchildren can have far-reaching effects. Reading bedtime stories can support tired parents while creating lasting memories that both generations will cherish. For younger children with short attention spans, simple interactive games work best. Keep them brief and engaging. Playing "I Spy" or Simon Says, or singing nursery rhymes with hand motions can be effective. Show-and-tell sessions with toys or artwork keep them excited about connecting, even if only for a few minutes. These activities help maintain that special grandparent-grandchild bond despite the miles between.


Older children enjoy more structured activities like drawing contests, virtual cooking sessions, or homework help using screen-sharing features. With teenagers, you might discuss books, practice Spanish together, or work on family history projects. These shared activities create meaningful connections while supporting their interests and development.


Physical in-person visits are vital, but it's important to discuss expectations and ground rules with adult children. Understanding their household routines helps us support rather than disrupt family dynamics. Remember that when visiting, we're there to enhance, not override, their parenting. This respectful approach strengthens relationships across all generations.

During visits, plan meaningful activities without overwhelming everyone. Focus on genuine connection through small adventures rather than packed schedules. Consider creating a special "grandparent activity" that happens only during visits – perhaps making a particular recipe or visiting a specific park. These traditions become treasured memories for everyone involved.


While technology is invaluable, physical tokens of love make relationships more tangible. Send occasional care packages with local Mexican treats or handwritten letters. Creating a shared journal or scrapbook with photos, drawings, or small mementos helps grandchildren understand and appreciate your life abroad, building a bridge between their world and yours.

Being a long-distance grandparent means supporting our adult children in their parenting journey. Stay informed about grandchildren's interests and activities while being mindful of giving unsolicited advice. Remember important dates like recitals or sports games. Even if you can't attend in person, sending good luck messages and requesting photos shows your investment in their lives and supports family bonds.


Remember that while long-distance grandparenting presents challenges, it offers unique opportunities to create special bonds. Your grandchildren will learn that love isn't limited by geography, and that family connections can remain strong across any distance. By combining technology, consistent communication, and creative approaches, you can remain a present and positive force in their lives.


Consistency is key in maintaining these precious relationships. Work with your children to establish regular communication schedules that respect time zones and daily routines. Perhaps Sunday afternoons become your special time for catching up, or you have quick morning chats before school. These regular touchpoints help maintain the rhythm of family life across borders.


Doreen Cumberford is author of "Life in the Camel Lane: Embrace the Adventure" and "Arriving Well: Stories About Identity, Belonging and Rediscovering Home." She hosts "Nomadic Diaries the Podcast," available on Apple and Spotify Podcasts.

 
 
 

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